Meet Joseph.


Name Joseph

Age 21

How effective is dating apps in your social/love life? I have made a couple good friends from them. Aside from that I find they don’t really get you anywhere, just a lot of dead ends. It really has dumbed down how we interact with people in real life as well sadly.

What are your general thoughts on sexual racism? I think people blur sexual racism with the idea of preference. Like it is fine to prefer people with blonde hair or darker skin etc… but what I’ve noticed is if you tell someone you’re a certain race or background they will instantly be disinterested which has been really disappointing to me.

What 5 words would you use to identify yourself? Australian. American. Beach. Create. Introverted.

How do users on these dating apps identify you as? If you don’t look particularly white people will assume you’re different and want to know where you’re from. So I’d say about 100% of the conversations I have on a dating app the question of my ethnicity will come up. As I get asked it so much, I’ve started asking the other person what they think, and the responses are literally everything under the sun. I get South American, Middle Eastern, Islander, Filipino, Indian, Spanish, and a lot of “Half somethings” – if you think of a country, someone’s probably asked me if I’m from there.

Have you experienced sexual racism on dating apps? To some extent. I don’t know if I can call it racism if we both tick that same ethnicity box. In terms of prejudice against the way I look, yes, I have experienced that.

What’s the most hurtful thing someone has said to you on these dating apps? Being told my eyes were too slanted for their taste was pretty hurtful.

Someone else said I had nice lips so they’d honour me by allowing me to give them a blowjob… but they weren’t into ethnics so they’d close their eyes.

I think in general it’s pretty hurtful if people critique your appearance on apps, but its solely based on appearance. Getting blocked instantly after showing more photos of your face makes you question what’s wrong with you. It’s hard not to take it personally if it happens time and time again and it really pays a toll on my self-esteem.

Do you identify yourself with one or more of the tribes? I don’t like the idea of tribes at all and try not to associate myself with labels like that. I think it’s a really sad reflection of gay culture. We already get stereotyped from other communities, then we do it to ourselves too?